Changing your life fast or slow? Which is better?
People seem to be split into two groups when making changes. Some like to dive right in and turn their lives upside down in one go. Others prefer to start slowly, and focus on long-term...
16 tips to succeed in making big changes in life
Want to make big changes in your life fast? Changing your life in one fell swoop requires a certain mindset. Hopefully you’re willing to face plenty of uncertainty and chaos. And you’ll need to be...
How to cope when others resist you changing
Most people resist change. Even if they’re unhappy, they avoid taking action to make life better. But what if you want to change, while others round you don’t? They may even oppose you moving towards...
Take control: survive and thrive in a future pandemic
We now know it’s likely we’ll face many different variants of COVID in future. And that’s a message most people don’t want to hear. However, it’s sensible to acknowledge the possibility exists. Rather than dismissing...
Adapt quickly: your control of COVID risk changes over time
Most people know they can’t control everything that happens to them. However, some people spend years trying to eliminate all problems from their lives. But their attempts are usually doomed. They don’t seem to realise...
Practical hints to cut clutter in your wardrobe
Most of us gravitate towards wearing our favourite clothes out of habit. The problem is we then ignore the bulk of clothes we’ve bought. Why not slim down how much stuff you’re hanging on to?...
Trying too hard to impress others makes you insecure
Everyone wants to feel accepted by the people closest to them. Nothing hurts more than thinking family and friends don’t like who you are, or what you do. But fear of rejection can make you...
Why naïve optimists don’t cope when life gets messy
If you’re a naïve optimist, life sometimes takes you by surprise – and not in a good way. For instance, you can be shocked by the unthinking or even callous way that some people behave....
How can naïve optimists learn to be more realistic?
Expecting everything to always work out for the best may seem a pleasant way to live. Naïve optimists trust that all will be well without their input, regardless of the circumstances. But if your beliefs...
Stop resisting change and treat others with more respect
The rate of change in society has gathered pace over recent years. Women and indigenous peoples continue to fight for their rights. Minority groups are now demanding they be treated with the respect they deserve....
Values and goals: For best results, make them match
People are often confused by the difference between values and goals. In this article, we’ll explore how you can tell them apart, and how you can use them to create more meaning in life. For...
Total control of life is an illusion, but don’t panic!
Everyone likes to think they control their own lives. That we’re not just tossed about at the whim of unknown forces. But do you really believe you’re in total control of your life? If you...
Buying your way to happiness? Consumerism is ruining the environment
Concern about the environment is gathering steam. Politicians tout policies to prove their environmental street-cred. Young activists prod the conscience of older generations. Everyone feels virtuous as they mouth slogans that demand action. But is...
Parents who desperately want help to change
Parents sometimes act towards their children in ways they later regret. They may be too busy, too angry, or just too exhausted to take much notice of their kids. Or somehow the roles get reversed...
Learn better parenting skills and enjoy your child again
Even normally unflappable people can be reduced to putty by the stresses of parenting. Seeking help to learn better parenting skills is vital to prevent burnout. Otherwise, your relationship with your child can slip into...
Introvert and proud! Accept your great qualities
Even though some find it hard to understand, I love being an introvert. Because being an introvert has many advantages. For example, we’re self-reliant, rather than dependent on others for company. We can think deeply...
