Why naïve optimists don’t cope when life gets messy
If you’re a naïve optimist, life sometimes takes you by surprise – and not in a good way. For instance, you can be shocked by the unthinking or even callous way that some people behave....
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Be realistic – you can’t make someone else happy
Do you give yourself a hard time for minor lapses? If so, learn to identify your unhelpful self-talk. In the process, let go of unreasonable rules you hold for yourself. For example, you can’t make...
Challenge negative self-beliefs: be kind to yourself
Do you hold a poor opinion of yourself? Do you exaggerate your faults and feel terrible about small lapses? Challenge negative self-beliefs to see if they’re really valid. In the process, be kind and reach...
Change self-imposed rules into more helpful advice
Do you do things you don’t want to, just to keep the peace? Do you agree with others so they won’t ridicule your opinions? What makes you act against your own interests like this? Perhaps...
Focus on real problems, not useless worries
Worriers often worry about things that are unlikely to happen. In contrast, non-worriers focus on the problems most likely to happen. In addition, they take note of how serious the consequences might be. That allows...
Want to get rid of dread? Banish worry
Worriers are often filled with dread all day. Sometimes it’s just an uneasy sense that something bad is going to happen. But they can’t put their finger on what’s worrying them. Others churn over their...
Why worriers see the world as full of danger
We all worry about different things. What stresses me doesn’t stress you. But it’s true that worriers see the world as full of danger. Some people love giving speeches; others would rather die. Some people...
Get to know factors that shaped your identity
What made you the person you are? Could you list all the factors that shaped your identity? If you do, you may be surprised at the length of the list. In our society, we tend...
Reviewing the past? Take the best, drop the rest.
As an adult, you can choose to review past events. This can be scary and even lead to arguments with others. These tips will help you take the best from the past, and reject those...
10 ways you sabotage yourself when setting goals
Is fear hold you back from changing your life? Do you sabotage yourself when setting goals? Learn to face common blocks to setting goals. The process of changing your lifestyle is often scary. You don’t...
