How to cope when others resist you changing
Most people resist change. Even if they’re unhappy, they avoid taking action to make life better. But what if you want to change, while others round you don’t? They may even oppose you moving towards...
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Adapt quickly: your control of COVID risk changes over time
Most people know they can’t control everything that happens to them. However, some people spend years trying to eliminate all problems from their lives. But their attempts are usually doomed. They don’t seem to realise...
Stop resisting change and treat others with more respect
The rate of change in society has gathered pace over recent years. Women and indigenous peoples continue to fight for their rights. Minority groups are now demanding they be treated with the respect they deserve....
Total control of life is an illusion, but don’t panic!
Everyone likes to think they control their own lives. That we’re not just tossed about at the whim of unknown forces. But do you really believe you’re in total control of your life? If you...
Introvert and proud! Accept your great qualities
Even though some find it hard to understand, I love being an introvert. Because being an introvert has many advantages. For example, we’re self-reliant, rather than dependent on others for company. We can think deeply...
Use mindfulness to achieve your goals more quickly
Previously we’ve discussed how mindfulness can help you achieve your goals. Let’s see this in action by focussing on Bill, who’s been struggling with his study assignments. How can he use mindfulness to achieve his...
How to manage difficult family visits better
Every family has conflict at some stage. It’s inevitable when people with strong views get together. But some family members may be so easily offended, that every visit ends with hurt feelings. How can you...
Tips for better family visits
Family visits can be a hassle when you’re really busy. Add the tension caused by difficult personalities, and it can be a recipe for disaster. Strategic planning, assertiveness and a healthy dose of mindfulness can...
Be flexible 1: transform goals when life holds you back
Everyone needs to be realistic when setting goals. Yet being flexible is just as important, especially when longed-for dreams have to be set aside. But don’t despair. Instead, be flexible and transform goals with creativity....
You’re an adult. Break free of unspoken family rules
We’ve discussed before the power of unspoken rules in families. Most of the time these rules are relatively harmless. But sometimes they stop you saying or doing what is best for you. You’re reluctant to...
Sleep: fix the habit that makes the most difference
Bill needs to improve his sleep habits. Over the past year, fatigue has caused a cascade of problems in every area of his life. So if he tackles the one habit that makes the most...
Break free of your childhood conditioning
You may think you’ve escaped the unspoken rules that operated in your family when you were a child. But that’s often not the case. Imagine you come home after many years’ absence overseas. Suddenly you’re...
Stick to goals using mindfulness: be more consistent
Do you set goals and then ditch them after a few days? Lack of follow-through is so frustrating. Yet it’s so common. Well, don’t worry. Learn to be more consistent and stick to goals using...
Be flexible 2: embrace new paths to reach goals
Life doesn’t always hand you what you want. Sometimes we have to change our plans in ways we don’t like. If you can be flexible and embrace new paths to reach goals, you’ll be ahead...
Mindfulness easy first steps: tips for busy people
The concept of mindfulness has been popular for a few years now. Like to try it but don’t know how to start? Read on to learn some mindfulness easy first steps. But what if you’re...
How to cope when others don’t want you to change
You’re finally changing something in your life that makes you unhappy. But now others don’t want you to change. What causes them to resist so much? Let’s look at how one person handled this challenge....
