How to cope when others resist you changing
Most people resist change. Even if they’re unhappy, they avoid taking action to make life better. But what if you want to change, while others round you don’t? They may even oppose you moving towards...
assertiveness
Trying too hard to impress others makes you insecure
Everyone wants to feel accepted by the people closest to them. Nothing hurts more than thinking family and friends don’t like who you are, or what you do. But fear of rejection can make you...
Top tips to teach kids how to be self-reliant
As parents, you want to guide and protect your children. You want to teach them how to make good choices and solve problems. Then as they grow older, you can gradually let them make bigger...
Use mindfulness to achieve your goals more quickly
Previously we’ve discussed how mindfulness can help you achieve your goals. Let’s see this in action by focussing on Bill, who’s been struggling with his study assignments. How can he use mindfulness to achieve his...
How to manage difficult family visits better
Every family has conflict at some stage. It’s inevitable when people with strong views get together. But some family members may be so easily offended that every visit ends with hurt feelings. How can you...
Tips for better family visits
Family visits can be a hassle when you’re really busy. Add the tension caused by difficult personalities, and it can be a recipe for disaster. Strategic planning, assertiveness and a healthy dose of mindfulness can...
You’re an adult. Break free of unspoken family rules 2
We’ve discussed before the power of unspoken rules in families. Most of the time these rules are relatively harmless. But sometimes they stop you saying or doing what is best for you. You’re reluctant to...
Break free of your childhood conditioning
You may think you’ve escaped the unspoken rules that operated in your family when you were a child. But that’s often not the case. Imagine you come home after many years’ absence. Suddenly you’re back...
Does buying so many clothes make you feel better?
Do you know why you buy new clothes so often? Does buying so many clothes make you feel better? Is part of the fun searching for that perfect dress or pair of jeans? But how...
Mindfulness when difficult people push your buttons
The greatest sources of comfort for many people are close family or friends. But these same people can also cause great pain and sorrow. Use mindfulness when others push your buttons and stir up emotional...
