Changing your life fast or slow? Which is better?
People seem to be split into two groups when making changes. Some like to dive right in and turn their lives upside down in one go. Others prefer to start slowly, and focus on long-term...
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16 tips to succeed in making big changes in life
Want to make big changes in your life fast? Changing your life in one fell swoop requires a certain mindset. Hopefully you’re willing to face plenty of uncertainty and chaos. And you’ll need to be...
Take control: survive and thrive in a future pandemic
We now know it’s likely we’ll face many different variants of COVID in future. And that’s a message most people don’t want to hear. However, it’s sensible to acknowledge the possibility exists. Rather than dismissing...
Adapt quickly: your control of COVID risk changes over time
Most people know they can’t control everything that happens to them. However, some people spend years trying to eliminate all problems from their lives. But their attempts are usually doomed. They don’t seem to realise...
Practical hints to cut clutter in your wardrobe
Most of us gravitate towards wearing our favourite clothes out of habit. The problem is we then ignore the bulk of clothes we’ve bought. Why not slim down how much stuff you’re hanging on to?...
Trying too hard to impress others makes you insecure
Everyone wants to feel accepted by the people closest to them. Nothing hurts more than thinking family and friends don’t like who you are, or what you do. But fear of rejection can make you...
How can naïve optimists learn to be more realistic?
Expecting everything to always work out for the best may seem a pleasant way to live. Naïve optimists trust that all will be well without their input, regardless of the circumstances. But if your beliefs...
Total control of life is an illusion, but don’t panic!
Everyone likes to think they control their own lives. That we’re not just tossed about at the whim of unknown forces. But do you really believe you’re in total control of your life? If you...
Buying your way to happiness? Consumerism is ruining the environment
Concern about the environment is gathering steam. Politicians tout policies to prove their environmental street-cred. Young activists prod the conscience of older generations. Everyone feels virtuous as they mouth slogans that demand action. But is...
Parents who desperately want help to change
Parents sometimes act towards their children in ways they later regret. They may be too busy, too angry, or just too exhausted to take much notice of their kids. Or somehow the roles get reversed...
Introvert and proud! Accept your great qualities
Even though some find it hard to understand, I love being an introvert. Because being an introvert has many advantages. For example, we’re self-reliant, rather than dependent on others for company. We can think deeply...
Use mindfulness to achieve your goals more quickly
Previously we’ve discussed how mindfulness can help you achieve your goals. Let’s see this in action by focussing on Bill, who’s been struggling with his study assignments. How can he use mindfulness to achieve his...
What you believe is true isn’t always right
Adults tend to leap to conclusions without enough evidence to back them up. If they’re not careful, these assumptions can lead to bad decisions. Are you aware that what you believe is true isn’t always...
How to manage difficult family visits better
Every family has conflict at some stage. It’s inevitable when people with strong views get together. But some family members may be so easily offended, that every visit ends with hurt feelings. How can you...
Tips for better family visits
Family visits can be a hassle when you’re really busy. Add the tension caused by difficult personalities, and it can be a recipe for disaster. Strategic planning, assertiveness and a healthy dose of mindfulness can...
Simple way to make positive affirmations effective
Jessie wants to feel more competent at work. But positive affirmations have made her feel worse. Unfortunately, she’s not using them the right way. Read on to learn the simple trick to make positive affirmations...
