Changing your life fast or slow? Which is better?
People seem to be split into two groups when making changes. Some like to dive right in and turn their lives upside down in one go. Others prefer to start slowly, and focus on long-term...
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16 tips to succeed in making big changes in life
Want to make big changes in your life fast? Changing your life in one fell swoop requires a certain mindset. Hopefully you’re willing to face plenty of uncertainty and chaos. And you’ll need to be...
How to cope when others resist you changing
Most people resist change. Even if they’re unhappy, they avoid taking action to make life better. But what if you want to change, while others round you don’t? They may even oppose you moving towards...
Trying too hard to impress others makes you insecure
Everyone wants to feel accepted by the people closest to them. Nothing hurts more than thinking family and friends don’t like who you are, or what you do. But fear of rejection can make you...
Why naïve optimists don’t cope when life gets messy
If you’re a naïve optimist, life sometimes takes you by surprise – and not in a good way. For instance, you can be shocked by the unthinking or even callous way that some people behave....
Parents who desperately want help to change
Parents sometimes act towards their children in ways they later regret. They may be too busy, too angry, or just too exhausted to take much notice of their kids. Or somehow the roles get reversed...
What you believe is true isn’t always right
Adults tend to leap to conclusions without enough evidence to back them up. If they’re not careful, these assumptions can lead to bad decisions. Are you aware that what you believe is true isn’t always...
How to make positive affirmations work better for you
You’ve all heard the folk wisdom: positive affirmations change how you see yourself. But how can you make positive affirmations work if you have low self-esteem? According to the theory, you repeatedly tell yourself you...
Simple way to make positive affirmations effective
Jessie wants to feel more competent at work. But positive affirmations have made her feel worse. Unfortunately, she’s not using them the right way. Read on to learn the simple trick to make positive affirmations...
Break free of unspoken rules from the past
Most families have unspoken rules everyone obeys. Usually these help the smooth running of the family. But sometimes these rules are pointless, harsh or even harmful. And yet later in life, we can still feel...
Worry seems rewarding but it’s magical thinking
Nobody likes how worry makes you feel – panicky, tense and out of control. So why do we keep worrying? Part of the answer is, that in a peculiar way, worry seems rewarding. Weird, right?...
Be realistic – you can’t always make someone else happy
Do you give yourself a hard time for minor lapses? If so, learn to identify your unhelpful self-talk. In the process, let go of unreasonable rules you hold for yourself. For example, you may believe...
Challenge negative self-beliefs: be kind to yourself
Do you hold a poor opinion of yourself? Do you exaggerate your faults and feel terrible about small lapses? Challenge negative self-beliefs to see if they’re really valid. In the process, be kind and reach...
Is blaming yourself for everything making life hard?
If you’re always blaming yourself for everything, take note. It’s not always your fault! You don’t possess super powers. You can’t predict everything bad or that will ever go wrong. So why are you taking...
Change self-imposed rules into more helpful advice
Do you do things you don’t want to, just to keep the peace? Do you agree with others so they won’t ridicule your opinions? What makes you act against your own interests like this? Perhaps...
12 tips for brainstorming on your own the quick way
Need to find some ideas fast? Going it alone? Even better. Brainstorming on your own is a quick and easy way to generate ideas. It’s useful in goalsetting and problem-solving, or for pushing creative boundaries....
